IFS Coaching for Engineers Leading Teams and Companies.
Leading Starts on the Inside.
I help engineers and tech leaders understand their inner systems, so they can lead their teams with clarity, confidence, and ease.
You’ve built your career on solving hard problems, designing elegant systems, and leading people toward results.
But leading thriving teams isn’t just about strategy, process, or execution. It’s also about understanding your own inner system—the parts of you that drive, doubt, protect, and push.
I’m Jesse, an engineer-turned-IFS coach. After 30 years building products, scaling teams, and helping grow a company from a living room startup to 170 people, I learned that leadership isn’t only about the external systems you build. It’s about the internal system you lead from.
Through Internal Family Systems (IFS), I help engineers and tech leaders like you create clarity inside—so you can show up with more presence, confidence, and authenticity on the outside.
Free Tools to Help You Start Today
Free Guide: From Engineer to Manager
Moving from individual contributor to leader can be a tough transition.
This guide helps you:
Redefine what “being useful” means as a manager.
Understand the parts of you that come up in leadership.
Learn practical ways to support your team while staying grounded yourself.
It’s written for engineers stepping into management—or current leaders who want to deepen their leadership through IFS awareness.
Recharge on YouTube
Prefer to reflect and explore at your own pace? Jesse shares practical insights and reflective prompts through short, thoughtful videos on YouTube. It’s a low-pressure way to engage with ideas that help you recharge and realign.
Latest Videos:
11-Minute Meditation for Busy People
How to go from Engineer to Manager
How IFS Helped Me
Why This Matters for Leaders
Coaching That Helps You Think Clearly and Move Forward, Calmly
When you’re leading a team or company, every part of you shows up in your leadership.
That part that worries you’re not technical enough anymore.
The problem-solving part that wants to fix everything for your team.
The achiever part that pushes you harder than anyone else would.
IFS gives you the tools to get to know these parts, so you can lead from Self—with calm, curiosity, and clarity. When you lead yourself well, you lead your team better.
This isn’t therapy. And it’s not another productivity hack.
Coaching with me is a space to take stock of where you are, hear your own thoughts again, and explore new ways of showing up—in work and in life—that feel more aligned with who you are now.
Ways We Can Work Together:
1:1 Coaching
Private, personalized coaching to help you understand your inner system, untangle leadership challenges, and reconnect with clarity.
Over 12 sessions (or a 6-month journey), we create space for you to lead yourself—and your team—more effectively.
Cohort Format - Intimate IFS Groups for Engineering Leaders
Sometimes what you need isn’t just insight—it’s reflection in the presence of others who get it.
Small-group coaching with other engineers and tech leaders. These groups are a space to explore your leadership parts alongside peers who get it. You’ll gain perspective, practice, and community while deepening your capacity to lead.
Reviews
“Jesse worked with me during a particularly challenging time in my career—navigating a fast-paced, continuously changing work environment with an undefined scope of responsibilities. His guidance was nothing short of transformative.
Facing a role where expectations shifted constantly, I often felt overwhelmed and unsure about where to focus my energy. Jesse took the time to understand my unique challenges and provided tailored strategies that not only helped me manage the day to day, but also helped me to embrace it as an opportunity for growth. His practical advice helped me identify my strengths, set clear goals, and establish a sense of direction.
What stood out most was his ability to listen empathetically and clearly structure a strategic path to overcoming my challenges and utilize this time for me to explore my professional growth and encouraged me to view change as a chance to learn and improve my skillset. Thanks to Jesse's expertise, I feel better equipped to better handle my role with confidence and clarity.”
— Kenan, Engineer
— Nina O’Donnel
“I had reached a place within my own self work where I felt stuck on how to move forward without support. Jesse provided the right amount of presence and curiosity to guide me into my uncomfortable feelings, and I felt very safe the entire time. I came out of the session with a new, healthier perspective and my life has felt positively changed ever since.”
— Chung-Ying Chou
“I received very thoughtful and resourceful support from Jesse, who helped me navigate and persevere through a challenging segment of my personal journey.”
— Janice Cheam
“Jesse is thoughtful, patient, kind, and just the right level of support to help one dive into self reflection and tackle inner questions. I highly recommend!”
— Marsha Goldman
“Jesse is a skilled guide in the IFS Model. I have addressed issues that Jesse has responded to with sensitively and respect. I trust Jesse and have felt a difference in my system after all of our meetings.”